Positive Thinking: 7 Easy Ways to Improve a Bad Day

Don't let a bad morning ruin your entire day. Use these mental tricks to change your momentum.

Had a lousy morning? Things looking grim?
Not to worry. The rest of your day need not be a disaster. It can in fact become one of your best, providing you take these simple steps:
1. Remember that the past does not equal the future.
There is no such thing as a "run of bad luck." The reason people believe such nonsense is that the human brain creates patterns out of random events and remembers the events that fit the pattern.

2. Refuse to make self-fulfilling prophesies. 
If you believe the rest of your day will be as challenging as what's already happened, then rest assured: You'll end up doing something (or saying) something that will make sure that your prediction comes true.

3. Get a sense of proportion.
Think about the big picture: Unless something life-changing has happened (like the death of a loved one), chances are that in two weeks, you'll have forgotten completely about whatever it was that has your shorts in a twist today.

4. Change your threshold for "good" and "bad."
Decide that a good day is any day that you're above ground. Similarly, decide that a bad day is when somebody steals your car and drives it into the ocean. Those types of definitions make it easy to be happy–and difficult to be sad.

5. Improve your body chemistry.
Your body and brain are in a feedback loop: A bad mood makes you tired, which makes your mood worse, and so forth. Interrupt the pattern by getting up and moving around.  Take a walk or eat something healthy.

6. Focus on what's going well.
The primary reason you're convinced it's a bad day is that you're focusing on whatever went wrong. However, for everything going badly, there are probably dozens of things going well.  Make list, and post it where it's visible.

7. Expect something wondrous.
Just as an attitude of doom and gloom makes you see more problems, facing the future with a sense of wonder makes you alive to all sorts of wonderful things that are going on, right now, everywhere around you.

90% of time, overthinking leads to Negativity!

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How to say NO at WORK

By Helen Coster, Forbes.com

Jun 08, 2011 at 12:11

When Beth Cronin started out as an associate at the law firm Trenam Kemker, she never once told a partner that she was too busy to do a project. Instead, she learned the right way to say no.

"First, I developed a reputation as being earnest and hardworking," says Cronin. "Then I made sure to understand what the project entailed, when my manager needed it and whether I could realistically deliver high-quality work in the allotted amount of time. The way to handle a request is never just to say 'I'm too busy.'"

Today she's co-chair of the litigation practice group at the firm, which has offices in St. Petersburg and Tampa, Fla.

Nowadays many companies expect their employees to do more work in less time. From interns to managing partners, people say yes to these demands because they want to be team players, look eager or simply be nice. But saying no can sometimes be an asset to your career.

"People need to change their mindset about agreeing to everything," says Susan Newman, Ph.D., a social psychologist and the author of The Book of No.

"By saying no, you can focus on your goals." Saying yes to everything can damage your reputation and hurt your career.

"The expectation of assigning partners is that you will do a project thoroughly, and on time," says Cronin. "If you don't, you will get the reputation that you can't be trusted."

TAKE TIME TO CONSIDER THE REQUEST

Determine how much time you'll need to deliver quality work, and how the assignment fits in to your existing workload. "In general before you say yes, you want to think strategically about what advantage doing something has for you," says Susan Newman, Ph.D.

OFFER AN ALTERNATIVE

While saying no, try to help the person who approached you about the task. Ask if you can contribute in a different way, or tackle the project at a later date.

SAY NO IN PERSON

"E-mail messages can get misconstrued," says Newman. "The willingness that you express through your tone of voice cannot be read in an e-mail."

AVOID DETAILS

Keep your explanation short and simple. By laying out your entire calendar, you run the risk that your boss will challenge the importance of other duties.

CONSIDER THE CONSEQUENCES

Weigh the risks and benefits of every refusal, both personally and professionally. If you're the low man on the totem pole, you have less leverage when it comes to declining a request. As a more senior staffer, saying yes to one opportunity might get in the way of meeting your real professional goals, or make you feel exhausted and burned out.

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